The way that’s best for your child (1)
‘Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established.’ Proverbs 24:3
You say, ‘I raised all my children the same way, how come this one is a problem?’
1) Congratulations on succeeding with your other kids! You’re ahead of the curve. A good family rule is: Pray about your shortcomings; focus on your successes. Don’t obsess over one particular child, short-changing the others of your time and attention. Though it doesn’t feel natural, reduce your intense concentration on your problem child. Stop ‘fixing’ them, enjoy all your children, and watch things improve.
2) Children develop at different rates and in different ways. Many problem children are just late arrivers; give them the time they need.
3) Most families have a ‘black sheep.’ They make us uncomfortable by not doing life like the rest of us. Accept what you don’t like about them until God either changes them or teaches the family mature, unconditional, non-controlling love through them.
4) You do your best as an imperfect but loving parent, then your children, not you, make their own choices. The prophet Samuel’s sons ‘did not walk in his ways. They turned aside after dishonest gain and accepted bribes and perverted justice’ (1 Samuel 8:3 NIV). Embarrassing and disappointing, yes! But no charge of spiritual or parental failure is laid on Samuel’s doorstep. As godly a man as ever lived, he ‘walked the talk.’ But when push came to shove, his sons had their options and chose not to do likewise. However dysfunctional your child may be, under God their greatest asset is a parent who responds by faith, not by fixing, by praying, not prying, and who gets out of God’s way and lets Him work.
The Master’s Apprebtice and all you prospective parents, from me to you with love.
I’m about to catch that game between D-Mark against Warriors, I’m excited,
catch you tomorrow, with a follow-up series for the prospective parents, no?! 🙂
till next time,
easy does it 🙂